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Thursday, May 19, 2011

Name Withheld - What Do You Think of Her Statement?

"I went to my prom, was crowned Prom Queen, and had a ball. I am also going to let my children go to their proms, if they choose too. They are currently in public and private school, are exposed everyday to the opposite sex. I do my best to talk to my children about this religion and where this religion is in their lives. To expect our children to not experience things in life is ridiculous. I think that if the brother goes with his sister it should be fine. They know they are Muslim, their Islam is not going to go out the window if they attend proms, award ceremonies, or graduations. They are always going to be exposed to things that are unIslamic, as long as we do the very best within our limits as parents, Insha'Allah our children will be fine."


Bonnie said...

I think there is a huge diiference between exposing our children to something unislamic or actually encouraging them to take part in that particular activity and then where does it end? Is it ok for them to go to a nightclub later on if it's with their brother? If a parent has taken a chance to willingly open a door for their children don't they shouldn't be suprised if it then slams in their face.

Nakia said...

As salaamu alaikum Bonnie. JazakILLAH Khairin for your comment. Well said.

SEHER said...

Being in a place which is hated by Allah(swt) is sin. when this is clear with the ayahs and the sunnah, who are we , putting our comments forward and expecting the result will be fine. We are getting recorded continuesly and we should remind our kids, as parents we'll do our best to help them to keep their records as pure as possibble. there are other entertainment options to use inshaAllah. May Allah(swt) keep us on the straight path, all the time.Amin

Talibiddeen Jr. said...

As salaamu alaykum,

Naam, I definitely agree with what Bonnie said.

Thanks for posting this Nakia as it really got me to thinking and helped, along with some sound knowledge and naseehah, helped me with another dilemma I had.

ummrashid said...

"They know they are Muslim"...
actually I think they, or the mum, has forgotten what that means.

Umm Suhailah said...


"All praise is due to Allaah, Lord & Creator of all the worlds. May Allaah bestow His peace & mercy upon the Prophet, his family, his companions, and on all of those who follow them in truth until The Last Day" Aameen

As Salaamu Alaikum

May Allaah bless all of you Aameen

I never really comment- sometimes I just appreciate a blog as a silent reader...........but I saw this post and I had to comment. Mashaa'Allaah.

This is a very big problem. I've heard this before from another sister- about letting their child watch a movie that had magic in it- "they can't avoid these things" etc. It is a big difference from exposure- stepping outside and you see a non-muslim women inappropriately dress...this - we have no control over- but to purposely allow your child to do something that is inappropriate is wrong! Our children are a trust from Allaah. This is wrong- I say this is a shame- we put our children in these situations is a crime. How about it can create seeds of doubt............go to the prom- yeah i say that equals: fraternization, music, naked apparel, and all kinds of haram. There's no way I'm going to put my 3 yr old daughter in front of the TV and say watch this program with swear words in it- your gonna have to hear it one day so get use to it!!! Nah I say that's neglect, abuse, and displeasing to our Lord. Our Lord says NOT TO EVEN COME NEAR TO SIN- He didn't say come close- but just don't participate. We should run from things that are haram as if we were running away from being thrown into the Hell-fire..........and I advise myself first and then everyone else. Thanks for allowing me to post

Umm Suhailah said...


As Salaamu Alaikum

Sorry if my tone was strong- it's easy for my tone to sound harsh when your typing. Plus the subject is very important- one not to take lightly. Its important to give people the benefit of the doubt- maybe the sister does not know better- so I should have stated that first and if she doesn't know any better than it's our job to call her kindly and correctly :) Baraka'Allaahu'Feekum. If anything I said was in correct it is from myself and the shaitan and ask that my Lord forgives me first and everyone else next

Nakia said...

As salaamu alaikum,

yes, I believe that we should long to be in a place that is separate from the nonbelievers and that we should hate in our hearts to follow ways which differ from the Quraan and Sunnah. We should fear Allah as much as we can. May we all do this to the best of our ability, Ameen.

Homeschooling Muslimah said...

Wa Aleykum assalyam, I think this is the statement of a muslim person towards the end of the days. SubhanAllah, and this is the amaanah that has been received by Allaah subhanahu wa taalya?! How can anyone even think of putting your child in the haram environment and then expect that this child is going to be true muslim?! Have you heard any of the sahabahs, May Allaah be merciful to all of them Amiin, bringing their kids to the pagan worshiping rituals?! This kind of statements make me shiver to the bottom of my spine. May Allaah guide us all amiin.

Nakia said...

As salaamu alaikum,

AlhamduLillah we have Muslims like you all... InshaALLAH we can still fight these weak mentalities and perhaps improve others but first and foremost ourselves.

Umm Umamah said...

Mashallah Sisters you have all statedthe truth Subhanallah. May Allah protect us all and our Emaan.