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Saturday, March 26, 2011

What to Expect When You're Not Expecting... (Yet?)

Lifeguard on Duty

This is the first time in a long time that I haven't had a baby on the way or been nursing one. It's kind of weird. I miss it. No, really.

However, I am taking advantage of the time that I have been given and I am more mindful than ever of the opportunities that I have to study and learn, InshaALLAH. I am trying to spend more quality time with the children and hey, if and when the next one comes, they will all be old enough to help in one way or another, right?

There are some key activities that I want to accomplish in the meantime. In no particular order, they are:

1. Get in shape. I am in terrible shape at the moment. I have a bad back and knees and feet! and have to see a physiotherapist because of it. This has to be high on the list because I like to stand. And walk.

2. Eat a balanced diet. Sister Farhana might have to help me with this one. I'm good for a while and then I slack off BIG TIME. My food pyramid is upside down.

3. Get rid of clutter. It's a madhouse over here. I've started getting rid of junk and plan to give some things that we just don't need to charity. It's a big project.

4. Get outside more. This is mostly hindered by the weather (it snowed again!)

5. Go to the masjid regularly. I honestly don't go that often, but I've been going a lot more since the Sheikh comes to town regularly.

6. Work on being the woman that I want my daughters to emulate and my son to respect. This is a hard one and truly, none of these on the list should stop ever, but I'm just thinking out loud and because I have the clear mind to do that, it's on the list.

7. Research my family tree. This takes a lot of time and effort. It's very tedious and stressful sometimes but it is rewarding. I've learned a lot about my family in a short amount of time.

8. Memorize more Qur'an. I'm working on it (nearly) every day. I need to make it every day. Right now, I'm memorizing about 5 out of 6 days.

9. Take care of myself first. That's what this is all about, isn't it? I often think of the children first and usually don't get to myself. It's not good to lose one's self.

10. Enjoy needing only one stroller. LOL

What are some things that you are working on?


C said...

Asalaamu Alaikum

My daughter is almost 2 and I'm not pregnant or nursing either. I'm getting old so maybe that is the last one. I have to work on a million things.Like brushing my teeth more than twice a day (5 is sunnah). Teaching my kids more about islam-reading etc. Learning ayat al kursi..I've been learning for months! so many things man.

Nakia said...

Wa alaikum as salaam,

you're right about the brushing - I've been thinking about that one. JazakILLAH Khairin for the reminder.

May ALLAH make things easy for you and grant you success with Ayatul Kursi - and may it stick with you Ameen. I keep having to relearn it for some reason. Every now and then I get mixed up in the middle. I have no idea why.

Stranded said...

Assalam Alekum sister

May you meet all your goals inshaAllah. May Allah make them easy for you.

I had a question. How do you know when the sheikh is coming in to town? I have been looking around his website, but couldnt find. I really really enjoyed his talk at a conference and was wondering which masjid he has been coming to here in toronto...

Nakia said...

Wa alaikum as salaam,
Ameen. JazakILLAH Khairin.

I'm in his online class so he tells us before he comes. You can friend him on Facebook, just look up The Fiks.... he comes to Khalid bin Walid in Etobicoke.

Eva said...

A lot of these things are on my to-do list as well! I pray that we sisters are able to fulfill all our goals Ameen.

Umm Tafari said...

As salaam alaikum,

Good for you, maashaa Allah. May Allah allow you to meet your goals. Ameen.

Also, you may want to add taking black seed oil consistently to the list. I started taking it on a daily basis recently, alhamdulillah. I has helped with my energy level.

Nakia said...

As salaamu alaikum Stranded - it's My Fiks

Sketched Soul said...

As-salaamu'alaykum my dearest NAKIA!
What an awesome list!! May Allah make it easy for you and grant you success in all your goals. Ameen.

And I am definitely here to help where I can :)
... you're on the right track. People who actually write their goals, usually make them happen! If only more people knew how powerful this is.

Anyway.. let me know if you have any specific questions, etc. Take the food thing slow.. as in one change at a time.. so it becomes a lifestyle you can live with.. not a burden.

Lots of Love

Stranded said...

Walekum Assalam Nakia

Jazak Allah Khair!

Nakia said...

Wa alaikum as salaam Farhana!
Yes, you're right about taking it slow. I've taken off and put on the same 50! pounds twice in the last two years. It doesn't take me long to get it off but as soon as I do, I get burnt out and I plateau and end up at the beginning again. It's like I give it my all and then have nothing left.

Wa alaikum as salaam Stranded - wa iyyaki :)